As a life coach, I meet some of the most incredibly talented, intelligent, and hardworking people that can’t seem to find happiness in one form or another, always concerned that they can’t seem to get more of whatever it is that they want. But after deeper investigation, they often realize that the destination they pursue isn’t even that they really want! Don’t put your cart before the horse. To coin a phrase we have all hear before, “The Journey is more important than the destination.” This is stated time and time again, because we’ll spend a majority of the time on the journey, while the destination is often a blink of an eye, or a phantom that never arrives. Here are some questions you should ask yourself if you feel you’re not living a life of prosperity.
Remember, prosperity isn’t the destination.
1. Define what you think is prosperity. Is it financial? Is it multitudes of friends and family? Is it the love of a spouse? Is it the freedom to help others? Is it the freedom to travel? Many people begin making life decisions without really asking themselves what kind of lives they really want to live. “Do I really want a huge home if I don’t plan on having kids?” “Do I really want to be a doctor?” “Is marriage what I really want right now?” “Is college right for me?” “What job can I have that lets me travel around the world?” Before you embark on a decision that will effect decades of your life, make sure it’s something you REALLY want to do for a majority of your lifetime, not something that is entirely determined by the final outcome.
2. What are you willing to sacrifice? Time is usually the item you’ll have to give up the most at the beginning. Lots of time that you’d rather spend at the beach, reading books, with your girlfriend or boyfriend, traveling, or celebrating with friends. Living the life of your dreams rarely comes easy, no matter how many celebrity magazines make it seem otherwise. When you see people on the red carpet in their amazing gowns and tuxedos, what you don’t see are the years of toil, early mornings, sleepless nights, and broken relationships that they suffered in order to make something that audiences will watch or listen to—even if it’s a terrible movie, video game, album, or book! And that rings true for doctors, lawyers, chefs, professors, politicians, and entrepreneurs as well. All of them gave up something in order to achieve the success they earned, and for each one of those that found success, there are hundreds, thousands and sometimes millions of others who weren’t willing to give up the immediate gratifications for the long term ones.
3. The ends don’t justify the means. If your goal is to simply make a lot of money, you may be setting yourself up for a huge midlife crises. In my practice, you wouldn’t imagine how many incredibly rich men and women tell me how unhappy they are while they swim in bathtubs of money. Why? Because they chose careers that may have provided them with huge dividends, but the career path they chose to get there was deeply unfulfilling and didn’t speak to the desires of their Authentic Soul. We spend 1/3 of our lives or more at work throughout our lives, so choose what you do wisely! Whether or not you believe in an afterlife, reincarnation, or nothing at all, our lives are a gift, so make sure you honor that by choosing a career that fills up your soul as well as your pocketbook. I lifetime of fulfilling work is prosperity you can’t put a price on.
4. Have you researched how to get what you want? Many of my clients set out to pursue their dreams without asking lots and lots of questions. Sure, you may feel emboldened and confident, but why not ask those that live the life that you want and find out how they crafted that life? Why repeat the mistakes that so many others have made before you? Seek the counsel of others and they may not only offer you information, but opportunities to get on your path more quickly!
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