Are you ready for a life-changing transition, but letting auto-pilot and stress-perpetuating behaviors, keep you in a rut at work, in your relationships, with your health? You’re not alone.
I regularly address this behavior with clients, to help move them towards the actions that will ignite new options in their lives.
Auto-pilot behaviors are those that we don’t even notice we’re doing. We’re lost in thought, lost in a daze of speedy or dulled-out multitasking. You can relate: You probably aren’t really hearing a conversation going on in the same room that you’re in, or even, what someone might be saying directly to you. Your body is in the room, but you feel that you’re not really present. You’re somewhere in your head, listening to whatever your mind is churning out – and usually, that isn’t very pretty. Is it?
We often avoid becoming more aware, because we’re afraid of what will happen if we really take a look at where we are; and often, we’re confused about what we really need to do to have the satisfying life we want. Confusion and fear can motivate us to hunker down – or step it up. Fear can take us right to those numbing behaviors that we say we don’t want to act out.
Those behaviors are those that we’re engaging in without awareness; eating that ice cream right out of the container, downing a bag of chips in front of the TV, over-working to exhaustion, buying things we don’t really want or need, arguing with our kids or spouse. These stressful, mindless, things we fret over after we’ve done them rob us of the happiness that we say we really want.
What’s a healthy antidote to relieve stress and fear we don’t even know we’re perpetuating? Instead of being lost in worry about the past, or anxiety about the future, we can return to the present and be where our feet are– a refreshing break from all that scary stuff.
Mindful awareness practice, taking time to become quiet, tune into the body and breath, and the sounds around us – returning, in short, to our senses – even for 10 minutes a day, can bring us a new sense of peace and the courage to take a look at our options. A practice of non-judgmentally witnessing how our mind works – seeing that thoughts and emotions, even really scary ones – are actually ephemeral and shifting all the time, reminds us that we don’t have to take them all so seriously. Being in the present, as fleeting as that may be, offers a glimpse of insight into what genuinely serves us.
I now bring mindfulness practice into my coaching and classes to help clients hear and see new options, new actions, and to move forward with new tools to reduce stress.
Daisy Swan is a mindful awareness instructor with an established career and life strategy practice in Los Angeles. She has been working with clients of all ages for over 20 years, weaving awareness practices into the lives of many. Quoted in numerous publications, heard on radio and seen on national TV, Daisy also offers classes and one-on-one coaching for corporations and individuals.
Contributor’s website: Daisy Swan & Associates (https://www.daisyswan.com)